This Bobby Petrino thing is fascinating.
It's a sports story that
both males and females can discuss. In case you don't know what I'm
talking about, let me recap. On April 1st (ironically), Bobby Petrino,
the head football coach at the University of Arkansas, wrecked his
motorcycle. He suffered a couple broken ribs and severe "road rash" on
his face. The first statement released said he was alone on the bike.
Turns out he had a passenger. Yes, 51-year-old Bobby Petrino,
married father of four, had a 24-year-old female (who wasn't his wife)
on the back of the motorcycle when the crash happened.
Turns out
that passenger, Jessica Dorrell, was an Arkansas athletic department
employee who was hired only days before by Petrino as the
student-athlete development coordinator.
Turns out she got the job (presumably) because she had been having
an "inappropriate relationship" with Petrino for a "significant period
of time". She's also received $20,000 from Petrino personally in the
last six months.
A blog post from Greg Gilbert, a big Arkansas fan, intrigued me.
This was written before Jeff Long (Arkansas' Athletic Director) fired
Bobby Petrino, but what it says is a bit of wisdom for all of us:
"This dark cloud was created by the choices of two people and as
usual, bad choices will eventually land your ox (or Harley) in the
ditch. As Mr. Long stated in the news conference, there is no committee.
He will ultimately make this decision and We aren’t He. Hang with me. I
want us to agree on something.
Point # 1. In most decisions or choices in life we are given two
very visible options. Yes or No? Left or Right? Up or Down? Let me
throw in two more options. Selfish or Selfless? A selfish decision
considers ME and ME only. What I want and what I think is best for ME
right now. A selfless decision considers the impact on others. Most
people with high integrity will realize that a decision that benefits
others will in turn, benefit them also. Can we agree that normally there
are two routes and one is selfish and the other selfless?
Point # 2. Every decision Bobby Petrino and Jessica Dorrell made
in the creation of this dark cloud was selfish. No one else was
considered. The consideration of a spouse, fiancée, child, university,
state or fan was nowhere in site. Don’t you just hate it when a decision
impacts you and you are not consulted? (Sorry, don’t have time to talk
about D.C. and politics.) None of us were even a glimmer in their mind.
Can we agree that all decisions by the two parties were totally selfish?"In
this Petrino situation, no one comes out ahead. It's a
lose-lose-lose-lose-lose equation when you consider Petrino, his wife,
his kids, Dorrell, and her fiance.
Choices made by two people have significant, short and long-term
effects on others. How many others? Let's think it through. Besides
Petrino and Dorrell, Petrino's family, Dorrell's fiance, you must think
about the assistant coaches for the Arkansas football team and their
families. Why them? Because the new coach may not keep all the
assistants; those ousted assistants will be looking for another job even
though they did nothing wrong. And don't forget the Arkansas fans.
They had just tasted success with their football program. Now it comes
crashing down.
Choices made by two people messed up the lives of countless others.
Choices, choices, choices.
Thinking
of choices brought me to a question I ask both me and you, "As a
Christian, are you choosing to follow Jesus every day?"
If you are a Christian, you have your "fire insurance". But we are
not to stop at just a decision to have Christ as our savior. We are
commanded to follow in Christ's footsteps in the way we live.
Our scripture passages this week (Sunday at 9:50 a.m.) are
Galatians 2:19-21,
Romans 6:1-7, and
John 15:1-5.
We'll see what Paul and John have to say to us about being crucified
with Christ, raised with Christ, and productive with Christ.
Finish Friday strong. Enjoy Saturday with your family. See you Sunday!
Loyally yours,
Darren Bayne
“The choices we make by accident are just as important as
the choices we make by design.” Dr. Shad
Helmstetter